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dime playlist: papa don’t preach…

My father's transition was four years ago and it often still feels like it's only been four minutes. I haven't gotten past it, I didn't get through it, and I definitely can't make peace with it. It never actually occurred to me that my father’s death was an actual possibility. That one day my memories of him would somehow become more important than our time spent together. That the preciseness of nature’s intricate details, visible in his artwork, would translate into an infinite depth of comfort.

As a child, I remember sitting on my mother's lap on the floor of our dining room while my father played dj for hours. He would start at around eleven on a Friday night and jam until daybreak Saturday morning. It was subconsciously implied that my music preferences should venture far beyond the realm of appropriate and sweet. But never just for the sake of rebellion, rather because I needed to create the soundtrack to my own story.

It didn't occur to me until I was much older that the family late nights weren't specifically about quality time. My father was providing options. He knew that he was raising a starving artist. After hours is not about making poor decisions in bad lighting surrounded by questionable characters. That's the time of night when my imagination should be at its peak. I think his hope was that the foundation of these nights would come across via my pen and/or an easel.

Art was always his side hustle and everything he touched was a visual interpretation of sound and emotion. So, I choose to honor him today through the music from those late nights. The lyric pattern, the melodic tempo, the bass, the riffs – it seems easier to become those compositions. If I listen hard enough, if the volume is loud enough, I can hear his laughter. And for a moment, become oblivious to the fact that the reality of his absence is just as deafening.

::  With You x The Moments  ::  Favorite Line: "Loving you is easier than breathing."  ::  Album: Moments With You (1976)  ::  FYI: My parents danced to this song at their wedding.

::  Try Again x Champaign  ::  Favorite Line: "I could search the whole world over and never find what you were always giving me."  ::  Album: Modern Heart (1983)

::  Three Times a Lady x The Commodores  ::  Favorite Line: "And if I had to live my life over again, I'd spend each and every moment with you."  ::  Album: Natural High (1978)

::  Still x The Commodores  ::  Favorite Line: "So many dreams that flew away, so many words we didn't say."  ::  Album: Midnight Magic (1979)

::  A Change Is Gonna Come x Sam Cooke  ::  Favorite Line: "There have been times that I thought I couldn't last for long, but now I think I'm able to carry on."  ::  Album: Ain't That Good News (1964)

::  After the Love Has Gone x Earth, Wind, & Fire  ::  Favorite Line: "Something happened along the way and yesterday was all we had."  ::  Album: I Am (1979)

::  September x Earth, Wind & Fire  ::  Favorite Line: "Remember how we knew love was here to stay."  ::  Album: The Best Of Earth, Wind & Fire, Vol. 1 (1978)

::  Mercy Mercy Me x Marvin Gaye  ::  Favorite Line: "What about this overcrowded land? How much more abuse from man can she stand."  ::  Album: What's Going On (1971)

::  What's Going On x Marvin Gaye  ::  Favorite Line: "Picket lines and picket signs, don’t punish me with brutality."  ::  Album: What’s Going On (1971)

::  Ain't No Mountain High Enough x Marvin Gaye & Tammi Terrell  ::  Favorite Line: "No wind, no rain or winters cold can stop me, baby. Cause you are my goal."  ::  Album: United (1967)

::  Ain't Nothing Like the Real Thing x Marvin Gaye & Tammi Terrell ::  Favorite Line: "No other sound is quite the same as your name."  ::  Album: You’re All I Need (1968)

::  If I Could Build My Whole Around You x Marvin Gaye & Tammi Terrell  ::  Favorite Line: "I'd put so much love where there is sorrow. I'd put joy where there’s never been none."  ::  Album: United (1967)

::  Your Precious Love x Marvin Gaye & Tammi Terrell  ::  Favorite Line: "I look in the mirror and I'm glad to see, laughter in the eyes, where tears used to be."  ::  Album: United (1967)

::  Hope That We Can Be Together Soon x Harold Melvin & The Bluenotes with Sharon Paige  ::  Favorite Line: "When I think about you, girl, chills run up and down my spine."  ::  Album: To Be True (1975)

::  Wake Up Everybody x Harold Melvin & The Bluenotes  ::  Favorite Line: "The world won't get no better if we just let it be."  ::  Album: Wake Up Everybody (1975)

::  Aways and Forever x Heatwave  ::  Favorite Line: "Each moment with you is just like a dream to me that somehow came true."  ::  Album: Too Hot To Handle (1976)

::  Back Stabbers x The O'Jays  ::  Favorite Line: "Blades are long, clenched tight in their fist, aiming straight at your back. And I don't think they'll miss.”  ::  Album: Back Stabbers (1972)

::  Forever Mine x The O'Jays  ::  Favorite Line: "You are that someone I've been hoping, I've been looking for all my days."  ::  Album: Identify Yourself (1979)

::  For The Love Of Money x The O'Jays  ::  Favorite Line: "For a small piece of paper, it carries a lot of weight."  ::  Album: Ship Ahoy (1973)

::  When A Man Loves A Woman x Percy Sledge  ::  Favorite Line: "Loving eyes can never see."  ::  Album: When A Man Loves A Woman (1965)

::  Ooo Baby Baby x Smokey Robinson & The Miracles  ::  Favorite Line: "My heart went out to play and in the game I lost you."  ::  Album: Going To A Go-Go (1965)

::  The Tracks of My Tears x Smokey Robinson & The Miracles  ::  Favorite Line: "My smile is my makeup I wear since my breakup with you."  ::  Album: Going To A Go-Go (1965)

::  We've Come Too Far To End It Now x Smokey Robinson & The Miracles  ::  Favorite Line: "For we've come too far to end it now."  ::  Album: Flying High Together (1972)

::  You Really Got a Hold On Me x Smokey Robinson & The Miracles  ::  Favorite Line: "I don't want you, but I need you."  ::  Album: The Fabulous Miracles (1963)

::  I Wish It Rain x The Temptations  ::  Favorite Line: "I'm a man and I got my pride, until it rains I'm gonna stay inside."  ::  Album: Wish It Would Rain (1968)

::  Papa Was a Rollin' Stone x The Temptations  ::  Favorite Line: "And when he died, all he left us was alone."  ::  Album: All Directions (1972)  ::  Inside Joke: Without fail, I would follow this line with "and not (a loan) from the bank."

::  You x Bill Withers  ::  Favorite Line: "Tomorrow depends too much on today and yesterday."  ::  Album: 'Justments (1974)

::  I Just Called To Say I  Love You x Stevie Wonder  ::  Favorite Line: "To fill your heart like no three words could ever do."  ::  Album: The Woman In Red (1984)

::  Superstition x Stevie Wonder  ::  Favorite Line: "When you believe in things that you don't understand, then you suffer."   ::  Album: Talking Book (1972)

::  Overjoyed x Stevie Wonder  ::  Favorite Line: "Over time, I've been building my castle of love just for two."  ::  Album: In Square Circle (1985) 

Photography x Corina Nika  ::  the view is from Kefalonia Island in Greece and was originally posted on her instagram feed